Charlotte A. Stout

If you missed an ealier post, this page has my previous February 2018 Reflection postings.
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February 9th: ATTITUDE –
I saw this verse and wanted to share it with all of you. There are times I want to whine about all I have to do but then I stop and give thanks for being able to do all I do. Our life is all about attitude. Enjoy!

I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight.
I have responsibilities to fulfill today.
I am important. My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.
Today I can complain because the weather is rainy
or I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.
Today I can feel sad that I don’t have more money or I can be glad
that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.
Today I can grumble about my health or I can rejoice that I am alive.
Today I can lament over all that my parents didn’t give me when I was growing up
or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.
Today I can cry because roses have thorns or I can celebrate that thorns have roses.
Today I can mourn my lack of friends
or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.
Today I can whine because I have to go to work
or I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.
Today I can complain because I have to go to school
or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.
Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework
or I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body, and soul.
Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped,
and I am the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.
Today, my attitude is the difference. I get to choose what kind of day I will have!
—Author Unknown

Feb 2017Jan 2017

February 2nd: Just say No

Most of us don’t have a problem saying no to things that can obviously harm our longevity such as drugs, overeating, alcohol, cigarettes, or the like.

But, when it comes to saying no to doing something you may not want to do, that takes away from “me/you” time, we often have a harder time being honest and declining. I know this is true for me. I say yes because I like to be busy, want to feel needed, and I was raised to find the joy in helping others, no matter the cost to me.

Recently I was asked to take on a task that I really did not want to do. I knew how much the additional help was needed by the requestor but if I said yes it would cut into time I needed to replenish my spirit through other activities. It was so hard to say No but I did. And, once I did I felt lighter in spirit and knew it was the right choice for me.

Why is it we feel we can put our needs, desires, wants secondary to those of others? When I started working I was told to work hard, put in the extra time and don’t complain. If I was asked to do something, even if I didn’t want to, I was to do it anyway. No complaints. I believe this carried over into my personal life leaving little time and energy for me.

With experience and age I have learned that saying No to others is a big Yes for me. Kristina Phelan wrote a column about this and it really hit home with me, which is why I am now sharing my thoughts on the matter with you.

Before saying yes to taking on additional responsibilities, take a moment to reflect on what it means to you. Is it important enough to take time away from you, your family, friends, or other activities that may replenish your spirit and help you finish all the tasks already on your plate? If it is, by all means say yes. But, if after reflection you can say it is not more important than spending time on you, with family or friends then say No, which is a big Yes for you and your time.