Charlotte A. Stout

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May 11th: Wake up Slowly

I have written before about waking up and having my first thought be of something I value or that makes me happy. It is a great way to start the day. I still do this but I have added a little something to my awakening process.

I set my alarm for fifteen minutes prior to the actual time I need to be out of bed. This additional time allows me to wake up slowly. I don’t dwell on what is on my calendar for the day during those fifteen minutes. I attempt to keep my mind a blank slate.

The empty canvas of my mind allows me to take in the sights and sounds around me while I stretch, greet my spousal unit with a kiss, and just relish the peace in these moments. I have found that waking up early often leads to my husband and me laughing about something, joking around or sharing a silly dream. I can’t tell you how much fun it is to laugh in bed first thing in the morning with your special someone. It sets the tone for the rest of the day.

Rather than dragging my tired body out of bed when the alarm goes off if I take an extra fifteen minutes to really wake up I am ready to rise and start the day with a sense of peace and joy. Weird eh! But, it is true. I don’t know how or why it works as I am not a neuro scientist, but it works for me.

So, next time you set the alarm, experiment with setting it for fifteen minutes prior to the time you actually need to be up. Take that time to wake up slowly stretching the body and the mind. This is your time to find enjoy peace and get centered for the day ahead. Don’t think about all the ick that needs to get done. Rather, let your mind be still and peaceful. If you need to exercise your mind think about something silly or fun and have a good laugh to get those endorphins fired up. Otherwise, luxuriate in the bliss of this quiet time that is reserved for you and you alone.

Enjoy waking up slowly.

May 4th: Friendships

I totally understand how people come and go in our lives. Some relationships are short term because, when initially formed, they presented us with an opportunity to grow or we met a need of that other person. Once the growth happens or their need is met I can see how the relationship moves on in a natural direction that benefits both parties and that direction may not be as close friends. However, when this happens, in this type of situation, I look back at the relationship with fondness and a warm feeling.

I have separated from people I was friends with. The separation may have been caused when our interests became dissimilar, our physical abilities and activities were different or we became engaged in a career or volunteer activities that left little time for others but family and really close friends. I know that sounds selfish but I don’t think it is. I am honest with myself and that allows me to feel a sense of freedom to do as I please, as long as it doesn’t intentionally hurt others.

What I do not understand is a person who uses others in the name of friendship and then leaves them in the dust. That is NOT friendship. A friend is one who makes things easy for you. If you are low they do their best to lift your spirits. If you are fearful they help you understand why and how to address the fear. If you are facing a crisis they listen and help in any way they can to ease your burden.

It is a hard lesson to learn, and sometimes we never learn, that not all friendships are built on honesty and are meant to last. The ones you should value are those that fill you with joy, feed your spirit, are built on honesty, make you laugh and ease life’s journey. You will know those people when you meet them. These relationships are the ones that endure over years and miles. So, be choosy and when you choose someone to befriend water and fertilize your friendship garden with lots of love, kindness, and honesty.