Charlotte A. Stout

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December 8th: Change That Tune

In life we sometimes find that a song, melody and verse, gets trapped in our head. It rolls around and around until we think we are going to go crazy. We know the words by heart, hum along even when we don’t want to because we are stuck, stuck, stuck. To get the song out of our head we need to change the tune we are singing.

The same can be true in life. We are in the same old hum drum job, relationship, social or other extracurricular activities and we don’t see a way out of the web we have spun. We wonder why we are bored or dissatisfied when we, according to those on the outside, have so much to be thankful for. Well, there may be a simple answer. We aren’t feeling fulfilled, challenged, supported, or loved where we are in life. When we feel this way, we may seek excitement elsewhere and possibly not where anything good could come of it.

So, what do we do? Think about exactly where you are in life right now. Are you happy with your job, your health, friends, partner, fun time activities? If yes, good for you. All you need to do to get a pesky song out of your head is truly to listen to a different song.

For those who may find the behaviors they are demonstrating are inconsistent with who they want to be and can trace these behaviors back to that same old song rolling around, it is time to find a new song. A song that inspires you, makes you happy and helps you realize your highest potential.

I have spoken about making life changes before and how difficult these can be. As difficult as they are you may need to pull up those big girl panties or big boy boxers and take action. I have also attempted to emphasize that major life changes should never be made on a whim. Changing the tune may result in simple steps forward. As impatient as we are as humans it is important to plan when making major changes, so you are prepared for eventualities. If that means keeping quiet about your plans while they germinate and not sharing them with others until they are in bloom, that is fine. Take time, make lists, save $$$, seek advice and counsel, and be patient. The new song, melody and lyrics, will unfold and become your new favorite tune.

December 1st: The Six Pack (Girl Gang)

What could be more awesome than six women traveling together who accept each other for our individuality, laugh at the silliest things, listen to each other’s life stories, cry over our difficult life experiences, care about our current and future happiness, talk over one another and can laugh about it and don’t compete with one another for attention. Everyone is equal; all opinions count and are respected. Nothing can compare with this experience. Nothing!

I have traveled with three girlfriends at a time in the past and that has been great. No competition and it was very comfortable. But, that was with three friends, not six.

I must say when we planned this week long get away for the six of us I didn’t really have concerns about how we would mesh as a group. However, often in groups of this size, no matter whether it is couples or individual friends there may be disagreements or issues that arise that can be divisive and leave people feeling frustrated and uncomfortable. Not so with this Six Pack.

We are our own party. Laughter abounds and often we don’t really know what originated the laugher. We only know that it is hard to stop the hilarity once it starts. And, nothing compares to the stomach ache one gets from laughing with friends.
In the words of Charlie Chaplin;

“A day without laughter is a day wasted.”

So, take a second and think about something silly – a moment, a gesture, a look, something a friend said, a joke or… and allow yourself time during the day to experience a belly laugh or two. It is not only good for the excretion of endorphins, improving our mental state and attitude but it is a great ab exercise to strengthen our core. 😊 Just sayin!

Thank you Six Pack for so many hours of laughter and true friendship. Will we survive the second annual “Six Pack” trip. We shall see and I know we are up to the challenge!